Betty Frances Crossman


1927 – 2014

XENIA, Ohio — Betty Frances Crossman, 87, passed away Tuesday, Dec. 23, in Xenia, Ohio.

She was born in Auburn on Nov. 16, 1927, to parents Gerald and Margaret Varnum, the oldest of three children, including Jane LaFontaine and Gerald Varnum.

Betty is survived by her two children, Tim Crossman (Reneé Crossman) and Mary Locke (Wil Locke); eight grandchildren, Matt Gnau (Joany Gnau), Michelle Gnau (Brian Wiebe), Gabriel Crossman (Maria Crossman), Marianne Crossman, Rebecca Crossman, Eva Crossman, Nathaniel Crossman and Brian Crossman; as well as five great-grandchildren, Bruce Crossman, Roy Crossman, Kaleigh Crossman, Conor Gary Crossman and Adrian Crossman.

She was predeceased by her husband, Roy Crossman.

Betty was married for 49 years to her childhood sweetheart, Roy, until his passing in 2001. She was an Air Force wife and moved numerous times in Roy’s career. She made many places home, including nine states, Puerto Rico, Japan and the Philippines, but throughout it all her heart remained in Maine, where she and Roy grew up.

Betty was a very active volunteer with church, military family services, her children’s schools and scouts. Betty was affectionately known as “Grammy” by her grandchildren and their friends. Small but mighty, Grammy gave everyone big hugs and — if you were lucky — some of her best gingersnaps or snickerdoodles. Grammy lived her last few years with dementia, but she was blessed to have her family to help her remain in her home.

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