DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have four great kids. They are well-behaved, respectful and full of fun. Hubby and I are having a disagreement concerning them, however.
I am an admitted “bed snob.” I make every bed in the house every day, just the way I want them done. It makes me crazy when my husband insists that the kids do it themselves.
Our kids have homework, daily chores they alternate (cleaning the kitchen after dinner, doing laundry, etc.), as well as what we call “Chore Day Sunday,” which is a family affair when everyone has a list of larger chores to complete. The kids know how to make their beds because I have taught them, and I feel that insisting they make their beds daily, too, is silly.
I ENJOY doing this small thing. Am I crazy or is he overreacting? — HOMEMAKER IN GEORGIA
DEAR HOMEMAKER: You’re not crazy. I’d be curious to know why your husband feels so strongly about this, particularly since the kids know how to make their beds and you have made clear that you do it because you enjoy it. Having their beds made for them won’t scar your offspring for life, so ask “Hubby” to indulge you by letting it go and not creating a problem where one doesn’t exist.
DEAR ABBY: Two of my granddaughters have posted pictures on Instagram that show them facing away from the camera with their bottoms covered and their tops nude. They said this is part of the “Topless Tour.” They said it’s no big deal because it only shows their back and “everyone does it.” I feel it is inappropriate to post something like this on social media. Will you please share your opinion? — GRANDMA IN UTAH
DEAR GRANDMA: I think it’s unwise, but the times they are a-changin’ and along with them, the current fads. The Topless Tour — photos of topless women shot from the rear in a scenic location and posted on social media — is just another one of them. Calm down and thank your higher power that this fad is tame. At one point, people were lowering their pants and “mooning” passing trains and cars.
DEAR ABBY: What kind of advice do you have for a guy who is falling in love with a co-worker? We are nurses in a fast-paced intensive care unit. We greatly depend on each other to provide patient care and emotional support. There are so many reasons I want to tell her how I feel, but the fear of messing things up with her scares me. — R.N. WITH A SECRET
DEAR R.N.: Not knowing what the policy at your hospital is regarding workplace romances, you’d be wise to start slowly. I assume you see her outside the ICU. A way to start would be to ask her to join you for lunch, coffee, or a drink and “quick dinner” after work. If she says yes, it means she could be interested in you, too. If not — perhaps because she’s already involved with someone — you won’t be embarrassed.
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