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The number of notices is up 22 percent this year.

AUBURN - David Trafford tugged a khaki-colored jacket over his brass badge and black holster and climbed out of his tan sedan.

He clutched a metal clipboard, scanning the yard for dogs.

The Lewiston street was filled with newer homes - mostly saltboxes and raised ranches.

Standing on the concrete stoop, he rapped hard on the front door.

A teenager opened it, dressed in baggy jeans, a bandanna tied around his head.

A moment later, a woman appeared. She stepped outside, closing the door behind her.

Trafford opened the metal clipboard revealing a thick wad of papers. He handed them to her.

She thanked him, then disappeared back in the house.

Widespread foreclosures

A sergeant with the Androscoggin County Sheriff's Department, Trafford makes house calls, serving foreclosure notices to homeowners behind on their payments.

These days, he's busier than ever.

Thumbing through the stack of papers in his lap, Trafford said his job takes him to all corners of the Twin Cities. He visits every type of residence, including tenement buildings, new colonials and mansions. On this day, he knocked on doors of middle-class homeowners in Lewiston's suburbs.

Many of the front lawns he navigated were decorated with tilting "For Sale" signs, buried in snowbanks or spattered with mud.

Half the doors opened. Most occupants weren't surprised to see him, accepting his legal documents with friendly resignation. Occasionally, they vent or refuse to take the offered paperwork, he said.

'Very depressing'

Behind every door, there's a story.

One woman greeted the deputy recently with a 2-foot python wrapped around the wrist of her extended hand.

As Trafford explained the reason for his visit, the snake, named Cleo, slowly uncoiled from the woman's arm, stretching out to sniff the new guest.

Linda Sherwood told him she never imagined she'd be fighting to keep her Auburn home.

Soon after she and her husband divorced, Sherwood got sick. Unable to work, she fell behind on bills, including the mortgage.

Now, with five children to feed, clothe, house and get to school, she is exploring all of her options, each bleaker than the next.

"We're surviving on nothing but the generosity of friends and heating assistance over the winter and knowing how to stretch a dollar," she said in an interview at her home this week.

Until her chronic ailment struck, Sherwood buzzed with energy.

Skilled in many areas, she always found work. She cleaned homes, painted and Sheetrocked as a self-employed "professional organizer."

She worked as a computer technician for a company that provided support services to adults and children with mental health issues. She could take a computer apart and rebuild it. That company went bankrupt last fall.

"I was always a wicked hard worker," she said.

Active in community affairs, she volunteered her time on boards and even launched with a friend a women's business networking group as well as a nonprofit shop that outfitted women re-entering the work force.

Her modest income now from military benefits, state aid and child support don't cover the family's expenses. She works small jobs when she can, but it's not enough.

"Things have gotten worse and worse and worse," she said.

A local oil company is suing her for payment for the oil she bought at the end of last year.

"If I had the money, I'd pay it," she said.

She took pride in paying all of her bills on time and sometimes prepaying, she said. That was when she was working.

Now she lets the answering machine screen her calls, avoiding creditors.

"It's very depressing," she said.

Kids rally in hard times

Five months late on her mortgage payments, Sherwood is due in court in June, according to the papers Trafford served.

Some people have suggested she sell her home.

But, even if she could find a buyer in this depressed real estate market, she'd have to rent a home big enough to house her five children. That likely would cost more than her monthly mortgage payment, she said.

She can't refinance without a full-time job. Even her banker friends say, "Sorry Linda, we can't help you."

She tries not to dwell on her woes. She prefers to focus on the kids, four boys and a girl. They've rallied in these tough times, she said.

The older kids, teenagers in high school, are seeking jobs. They also look after her health and remind her of her financial limits when she's tempted to splurge on something for them at the store.

The adversity has a silver lining, she said. The family is closer than ever and her kids have a new appreciation for more important things in life than the latest video game or trendy fashions.

Her kids don't come home from school to expensive toys. They walk through the door eager to play with tiny black kittens navigating the floor or they ask to hold Cleo the snake.

"I'm just blessed to have great kids who seem to understand we work as a team," she said.

Friends leave bags of expensive clothes on the back deck.

"Nobody really knows how poor we are,' she said.

Even in financial straits, she often entertains groups of kids at her home, friends and athletic teammates of her children. She cooks most meals from scratch, cracking eggs from the live chickens she keeps.

She wishes there was a support group for people caught in foreclosure. They could brainstorm ideas and share resources, she said.

A bad trend

Meanwhile, Trafford said the number of civil summonses and complaints keeps growing; most of those are foreclosures.

His office served more than 800 in the first four months of this year, compared to 658 during the same period last year. That's a 22 percent increase, Trafford said.

"It seems to be happening more and more these days," he said. "People are avoiding us. They just don't want to see the sheriff because they know it's not good news."

He's required by law to make three attempts. If nobody answers the door, he'll slip a business card between it and the jamb.

After a third time, he fills out an affidavit and sends it to the law firm hired by the bank. A judge must give the firm the OK to post the papers on the homeowner's door.

After that, it's out of Trafford's hands. The summons gives the homeowner 20 days to respond.

The trend is bad for the banks and bad for the homeowners. Only the county profits from the spike in foreclosures. They charge for every summons served.

Trafford is sympathetic. He knows how some people become victims of circumstance.

Some of the doors he's knocked on belong to people who greet him by name. It may be an old friend from high school or somebody who rode the bus with him.

One time, while serving eviction papers, a policeman opened the door. He knew the man.

Trafford had been there before, delivering papers to the officer's wife. She had never told her husband about the foreclosure proceedings.

"Once he found out about it he took the appropriate steps," Trafford said. "I'm pretty sure they still live in that home today."



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Posted By:Concerned at April 13, 2008 7:15 AM (Suggest Removal)
Very sad times. The mortgage companies should never have allowed half the people they did to purchase homes. The first major issue in the economy after this "housing boom" and now doom of trouble for folks. So many people never really were prepared to be homeowners. Many never had 20% down, most used Loan strategies thanks to irresposnsible loan companies. Other just did not have the income to truly be a homeowner. My prayers go out to them.

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Posted By:Joe at April 13, 2008 7:18 AM (Suggest Removal)
Does anyone need more clues that this presidential administration has been a disaster? Which clues do you need? 4,000 graves of soldiers? 3,000 of workers of 9/11, more from Katrina? No plan to deal with global warming? Infrastructures falling apart? Education is a mess? World disgrace? The poor get poorer, the rich richer? How much clearer could anyone need it to be?

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Posted By:Reality Check at April 13, 2008 7:37 AM (Suggest Removal)
Not everyone is a victim of circumstance. Some people not only dig their own graves but then jump right in, all the while crying "he pushed me!".

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Posted By:MICHAEL at April 13, 2008 7:37 AM (Suggest Removal)
I realize someone has to do this dirty job but isn't this waving this particular undesirable flag a little to much.

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Posted By:ojhuig at April 13, 2008 7:44 AM (Suggest Removal)
It's a sign of the times, of course we have to know about it. As to Linda Sherwood, I hope this results in some offers of work that she can do long-term.

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Posted By:Reader at April 13, 2008 8:47 AM (Suggest Removal)
I agree with reality check!!!

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Posted By:Keith at April 13, 2008 8:54 AM (Suggest Removal)
Why are mortgage companies to blame? Times were good, houses were available, rate were good. When is the consumer held responsibile for not managing their finances? Purchasing a home is not a 1 or 2 year purchase and you need to be able to plan for anything that may come up.

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Posted By:TED at April 13, 2008 9:38 AM (Suggest Removal)
I am usually at the head of the line pointing blame on this administration. But in regards to the mortgage mess, I agree with Keith. I bought my home seven years ago,just before the boom, when it was a buyer's market. We knew that was the time to buy a home and that if we waited any longer we would miss the boat and not be able to afford the house we needed. When signing closing papers I got writer's cramp signing and initialing the forms that confirmed that I really knew what I was getting into. Most people in this mess jumped into deals they truly did not understand and in the long run could not afford- yes, the lenders took advantage and offered these sweet sounding deals to people excited to be homeowners- but remember those old adages- "let the buyer beware" and "if it seems too good to be true, it probably is". In a perfect world, we would expect morality instead of greed, and for the person we are doing business with to look out for our best interests. But what it realistically comes down to is that the person giving assurances is trying to earn a paycheck and the buyer needs to be cautious. Maybe there could have been more government interventions in place, but there is only so far that we can expect the government to regulate business and still be a nation of free enterprise. I'll return to Bush bashing at a later post- when he really deserves it.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 9:45 AM (Suggest Removal)
In response to the posting by: ojhuig at April 13, 2008 7:44 AM, perhaps this person did not read the full article. Linda Sherwood has a chronic illness that has rendered her unemployable, a condition where she is either in too much pain to lift, as well as lacking energy that keeps her mind sharp enough to concentrate and follow through on tasks. The medication she takes renders her "zombie-like". Let's hope the person who posted this never suffers from a debilitating illness or chronic condition that they would learn empathy.

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Posted By:BRUCE at April 13, 2008 9:48 AM (Suggest Removal)
Anybody can stop blaming the mortgage companys, it is basicaly the fault of the stupid Presidentand his cronies. Wether he wants to admit it or not. This company is in a bad recession. With gas prices so high, it won't be long before we'll have to ration everything.

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Posted By:PAUL at April 13, 2008 9:53 AM (Suggest Removal)
Joe your a moron!! When things do not go peoples way blame someone how about the Govenor of MAine why are we the highest taxed state in the nation must be his fault. The stupidity level does not help the sherwoods what about ger x husband should he be helping????

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 9:57 AM (Suggest Removal)
In response to: Reality Check, who stated: "Some people not only dig their own graves but then jump right in, all the while crying "he pushed me!". Anyone who knows Linda Sherwood's background and circumstances, certainly knows that in her case, she was "pushed" into a financial crisis after divorce. Her ex walked away with none of the past bills to pay, PLUS, Linda had to take out a mortgage in her name only with enough to cover the old bills AND pay the ex thousands of dollars as part of the divorce judgement, giving him half of the "equity", which is a joke in itself. The ex is self-employed, working at least 40 "billable" hours a week, at a rate of $40/hour...go figure. Yet, he claims to live in poverty, hiding his true income so he doesn't have to increase the measely child support that was court ordered. Linda has always been an incredibly hard worker in her life, often working two and three jobs to support herself. She is also the most dedicated mother and friend anyone could know. Realitycheck obviously does not know Linda and must have been referring to someone else.

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Posted By:Reality Check at April 13, 2008 10:02 AM (Suggest Removal)
"Earthymainegirl" seems to be reading far more into the article about Ms Sherwood's illness than was there.

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Posted By:at work...you?? at April 13, 2008 10:11 AM (Suggest Removal)
boo hoo, not my fault, blame Geo. Bush.. wah wah wah. I took a 125% mortgage and spent the money on toys and now can't pay the bill.. wah wah.. help me.. I need someone to blame because I was taken advantage of. boo hoo. If the government bails these irresponsible people out, what do I get? I have a mortgage I can afford, no credit cards, no car loans because I work and was brought up to be responsible. I feel badly for Linda, but face reality, you need to move and take care of yourself and kids. Feel lucky you get child support. Volunteer at Good Shepard when you feel good. It isn't going to be easy, but you have a good outlook and it seems, good friends.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 10:12 AM (Suggest Removal)
In response to Paul, yes, you are absolutely right...shouldn't the ex-husband be helping, especially since his five children are involved??? It is the children who we should be concerned about...especially children like Linda's who are good students and active community members and future leaders. Non-custodial parents should be doing more to help the families they walked out on to fend for themselves...if Linda were to work full-time, if she were well enough, then I think you would find it to be detrimental to the children.

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Posted By:Reality Check at April 13, 2008 10:14 AM (Suggest Removal)
Ohh. Now I get it.

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Posted By:at work...you?? at April 13, 2008 10:36 AM (Suggest Removal)
and I agree, Joe is a moron.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 10:41 AM (Suggest Removal)
Good to see that Realitycheck "gets it". We can blame the Presidential office as much as we want for our woes, which may be a credible reason for the country's econcomic crisis. However, we often overlook the fact that we live with a "legal" system, NOT a "justice" system. Were it a justice system, custodial parents and children would not be "left behind" in poverty while the non-custodial parents walk away to start a new life without the responsibility for taking care of their past. Perhaps the blame on deadbeat dads struck a chord???

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 10:46 AM (Suggest Removal)
In response to "Atwork...you?", I think you may be assuming far too much about people like Linda who have indeed been responsible citizens, hard workers, and volunteers. As for Sherwood moving, the article was clear that rent would even cost more then the current mortgage...so where does one go? Volunteer? You have no idea the many hours that Sherwood has volunteered behind the scenes in this community, yes, even at Good Shepherd Food Bank at times. A positive outlook is necessary for anyone to succeed, no matter the circumstance. Giving and volunteering is a wonderful thing, but one can only give so much of themselves. There are times in one's life that they are the ones in need, as in this case.

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Posted By:just me at April 13, 2008 10:51 AM (Suggest Removal)
Several homeowners in my family have lost their houses within the past two years. All due to escalating taxes, rising oil costs (which lead to the necessity of re-fi), and sub-prime lenders. It's so sad. These are people, with families, losing everything so that others can just get richer.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 10:56 AM (Suggest Removal)
thank you, "justme" for bringing up the fact that we have escalating taxes, rising oil costs, etc. We need to take a look at all these things that are much of the cause in the foreclosure markets today. Pay the mortgage...or pay for gas in the car to transport kids, heat the home, etc. There is only so much juggling you can do on an already tight budget. So...what can we do as a community? No doubt, we are in a crisis...let's start looking at positive ways we can make changes right here in our own backyards, before sending our resources overseas to help others.

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Posted By:Reality Check at April 13, 2008 10:56 AM (Suggest Removal)
Actually, I "get" who's writing the "earthymainegirl" blogs.

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Posted By:just me at April 13, 2008 11:00 AM (Suggest Removal)
earthymainegirl- for sure, Linda will qualify for subsidized housing...

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 11:01 AM (Suggest Removal)
LOL, that's funny, because I was thinking the same thing..."aha, I know who is writing the "realitycheck" blogs.

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Posted By:personal at April 13, 2008 11:02 AM (Suggest Removal)
Subsidized Housing? There is very little of that available, in fact, in most areas there is a 2 year waiting period. Monies on both a Federal and State level that were supposed to be put aside for subsidized housing have been spent on other things. Our governments are not ready for the mortgage crisis, and I guess our communities aren't ready either given some of the mean spirited comments posted here. I do not think the government should bail folks out but I do certainly object strenuously to multimillionaires walking away from their companies with millions of dollars while people with low incomes suffer. Its a critica time for all of us to take a morality check and ask the question of ourselves: "What would I do?" Then look for solutions rather than point a finger at the victims.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 11:04 AM (Suggest Removal)
oh, sure, Linda will qualify for subsidized housing. My concern is to see that the Maine Housing Authority is not doing more to keep people in their own homes that could be subsidized. In other states, the Housing Authorities do give vouchers to low-income home owners, allowing them the same subsidy that they would receive by renting an apartment. Why is it that the Maine Housing Authority would give x-amount of dollars toward apartment rental, but they would not give any subsidy to homeowners, like Linda, to remain in their own home, which costs the same or less then monthly rent? I'd like to see this become a forum for a solution, not a ranting of blame and name calling. What's sad is that people are being forced to move, yet the houses they are forced to leave will become vacant elephants on the already burdened housing market.

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Posted By:just me at April 13, 2008 11:13 AM (Suggest Removal)
Maybe if she downgraded her suburban to something more gas efficient, and dropped luxuries such as vanity plates.. (as per the Dec. article).. things may be different.. Your response reeks of an entitlement attitude. It makes me wonder if you are her. Answer us this, Is 'she' too good for subsidized housing?

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 11:20 AM (Suggest Removal)
Wow...sounds like someone is just wanting to get into a pissing contest, which is not at all what would be beneficial to this discussion. Oh yeah, vanity plates are going to make a difference between survival and having the house foreclosed on...that just doesn't make sense. And a Suburban? Please...the woman has five children to cart around...should she downgrade to a Ford Escort and then make several trips back and forth to the schools and children's activities? Wouldn't that suck up just as much fuel?

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Posted By:ojhuig at April 13, 2008 11:30 AM (Suggest Removal)
Oh knock it off. I know she's sick and not likely to get better. But look at all she has done. I doubt she's planning to wither up and die.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 11:33 AM (Suggest Removal)
...and subsidized housing? There is no shame in having to live in subsidized housing as a "house is not a home". I totally realize this. My point was, why bother moving a family out of their home when the same amount of subsidy could go toward keeping a family in a home, for the stability of the children (changing schools, etc). Actually, knowing Linda, she would thrive in an environment of having other children nearby for her kids to play with and she would end up having the apartment where all the kids in the neighborhood still gather! You would not believe the situations she has already lived in, and did so with a smile on her face and her laughter filling the room...from a travel trailer with two small children...to an unfinished basement. Yet all the while, she has always been a person who has opened her home, even to strangers in need, always seeing others needs before her own. Her older children reflect that lesson well learned and are becoming incredible citizens.

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Posted By:dan at April 13, 2008 11:43 AM (Suggest Removal)
at work and reality check got it right. everybody is looking for someone else to blame for the poor decisions they have made. how about holding people accountable for their actions. my daughter is 6 and she is held accountable for her actions. got to run and go to work so i can pay my bills and support the people like earthmainegirl who seem to expect a handout from the government

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 11:44 AM (Suggest Removal)
Like I said, Linda has been continually (ongoing) trying to sell the Suburban. I'm sure she would be thrilled to sell it and have enough left over to buy a used vehicle that would fit the family, however, that has not happened yet. So, in the meantime, she continues listing the vehicle for sale. Also, the cost of upgrading from a used (1998) Suburban to a Volvo would negate the cost savings in fuel. Any other bright ideas???

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 11:52 AM (Suggest Removal)
ojhuig's point is a good one..."look at all she has done". This is not a person who is going to give up. I'm sure she once again will become an active community member, if her health allows. With good health, just give her a "cause" that she believes in, and she will give it her all.

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Posted By:BRICK at April 13, 2008 11:57 AM (Suggest Removal)
Joe, you are a small minded democratic alarmist. The stories of irresponsible loan companies and some ill-prepared home owners has nothing to do with the president. Get off your soap box, take a minute and look at the big picture.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 12:00 PM (Suggest Removal)
"dan" doesn't have a clue and is making assumptions, very faulty ones.

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Posted By:dan at April 13, 2008 12:03 PM (Suggest Removal)
well earthymainegirl in the above posts you have blamed the ex husband, you have blamed subsidized housing but god forbid we question the extra money being spent on vanity plates. we know your type "its only $20 a year" all those add up. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY PEOPLE

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 12:09 PM (Suggest Removal)
BRICK, I somewhat agree with you in that we cannot blame everything on the government. However, when we do look at the price of fuel oil and electricity costs, etc, that is indeed regulated by the government. Were our economy in a better place, there would be jobs out there that provide a "living wage". On the other hand, "we the people" have a right and responsibility to communicate with our government officials, be it through emails/letters or attending legislative hearings and town meetings. We need to let them know our concerns and offer ideas that can turn into solutions to these challenges.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 12:18 PM (Suggest Removal)
Dan, you've not "heard" the points being made here. There was no "blame" on subsidized housing...merely facts that in other states, the Housing Authority does assist low-income families with subsidized vouchers for living in their own homes...no more of a cost then living in an apartment or government housing. There are plenty of people out there who are government subsidized who think nothing of spending a lot more then $20/year on such things as video games, entertainment, expensive clothing, etc. IF someone chooses to spend birthday or holiday gift money that was intended to be solely for them to do something for themselves, what does it matter to you if it were a vanity plate, a meal out, or an article of clothing? Are you saying that if someone is low-income, they do not have the right to do something for themselves with gift money? Let's hope you never find yourself in a seemingly hopeless situation where you are fighting for survival....or perhaps, then, you would become more understanding and come off your high horse.

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Posted By:Rocky at April 13, 2008 12:23 PM (Suggest Removal)
Lets put this into perspective. Linda has a snake, kittens and chickens, that all require food and litter and shavings. Its an unnecessary expense. And although some will disagree with me, snakes are very well known for carrying disease, usually in the e coli family. She 'entertains kids, friends and athletic teammates cooking most of the meals from scratch'. The Food stamp system isn't geared to feed the neighborhood, only the occupants of the household. Another unnecessary expense. Military benefits, state aid and child support (food stamps, medical, heating assistance and generosity of friends) are supplied. An ex who is paying how much for child support? If the ex is earning $40. per hour, but is claiming less in earning, a judge should be looking this situation over. And the ex should get a kick in the ass, if he is not being honest; for his kids sake. Sounds like Linda needs to tighten up the food chain and stop being the hostess, get rid of the animals and seek an injunction to get in front of a judge for a child support reevaluation. Nice guys finish last.

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Posted By:Keith at April 13, 2008 12:31 PM (Suggest Removal)
Blaming oil, blaming interest rate...etc etc is all part of owning a home and need to be factored in when considering owning. A house is not just a mortgage payment. I am 2 years out of college and coming up on my second year of owning my home. It's not easy but this is what I decided instead of the new vehicle or whatever it may be. And there are programs available people who look for them. They won't come to you with a bag of cash saying "here is your help".

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Posted By:dan at April 13, 2008 12:37 PM (Suggest Removal)
everyone has a right to spend how they want but when they do spend an extra $20 here and $20 there it adds up and then they are facing foreclosure. i am just asking for some personal responsibility. i know some of my choices have not been right but i do not try and put the blame on someone else.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 1:17 PM (Suggest Removal)
Rocky, you are correct in pointing out the expenses of owning pets. However, the pets (that her children are allowed to take care of) are those which belong to others. They are simply housed in Linda's home for her children to enjoy. The true owners pay for the feed and shavings, and the children are taught responsibility by caring for living beings, rather then being useless couch potatoes. And I agree, that the father of the children should own up to his responsibility. However, as stated earlier, we live in a country that has a "legal" system, not a "justice" system. Law is that after a divorce degree is given, the non-custodial parent cannot go back to court to request an increase in child support until three years have passed! Astounding, but true. Some non-custodial parents are very sly and have learned ways to escape the system by self-employment in which case they easily hide money by being paid in cash and only reporting an amount that would keep them from having to pay more child support. THIS is definitely an issue worthy of discussion. It seems that there are people who are pinpointing Linda's "poor decisions" and not looking at the whole picture. Single parents like Linda are left holding the bag, some working (who are able) full-time jobs and not receiving any child support. These people as all single parents should be applauded, not accused. Anyone with children knows it takes two adults to properly care for their needs. Figure in caring for five children alone and you have a full-time job. Amazingly enough, Linda's ex does many "volunteer" handyman jobs for others, but refuses to do any more then is court ordered to help his children...not to mention the cost of taking his women out on dates, etc. Yes, $20 here and there adds up. So what is your suggestion for low-income people? Are they not to have anything but a roof over their heads and food? Are they not to offer a cup of coffee for guests or have potlucks for others to get together in their homes? Are you really suggesting this? Let's take a look at true unnecessary spending...like the practices of our government.

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Posted By:unknown at April 13, 2008 1:29 PM (Suggest Removal)
Wow, do you people have anything better to do?

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 1:33 PM (Suggest Removal)
Keith, you are two years out of college and you are a homeowner. You are to be applauded for your responsible attitude and behavior. I do not judge your youth, however, I know from experience that many things can change in one's life...things that were unexpected, either by poor decisions or circumstances. At your age, I had answers for everybody else's lives also, but ended up eating my words of criticism. I wish you continued success in working toward your goals and seeing your dreams fulfilled. As good as life is, and it is good, there are always curve balls that change our journeys. Keep that in mind. Someone once told me that when pointing my finger at anyone else, take a look at the three pointing back at yourself. A good proverb to consider before giving advise to others.

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Posted By:just me at April 13, 2008 1:34 PM (Suggest Removal)
Oy vey. I was wondering when the ex husband's private life was going to be dragged into the discussion. If you're really gonna go there, and suggest that the ex is spending his money on dating.. how's about mentioning that Linda's in a relationship? Doesn't she have a man around that offers her financial support?

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Posted By:Reality Check at April 13, 2008 1:35 PM (Suggest Removal)
Earthymainegirl seems to shift the story as it's convenient. The animals belong to someone else. The meals made from scratch are potluck. The ex is deliberately self-employed just to hide money. The vanity plate money was a gift. After reading what's been written on this topic, I guess I'm having a hard time believing it all. Yet if I post this comment, I'll get cyber-slapped like everyone else who questions what's being said. What the heck. Send.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 1:37 PM (Suggest Removal)
In response to:personal at April 13, 2008 11:02 AM...very, very well said. ..good points to ponder. Now, what can we do as a community...NOT just to bail people out, that is not what I'm suggesting. We can do some things as individuals when we have opportunity to help out family, friends, neighbors, etc. There are resources available, however, people do not realize the hoops one has to jump through to get to those sources. The paperwork is daunting, even for the educated, and many times, the information given is redundant from other organizations. Critical people make it sound like it is so easy to go to this office or that and simply receive assistance. So, I guess the question would be...what can we do on a local level as a community, working together with community leaders to getting through this economic crisis that we are in. Let's stop pointing the finger and trying to dig to come up with reasons that individuals are in a financial crisis or foreclosure situation. Let's offer some solutions and bring them before our city councils and legislators. There are some intelligent people on this blog and I'm sure they could come up with some very real and viable answers.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 1:46 PM (Suggest Removal)
oh, and because Linda is in a relationship, the boyfriend is to pay for her housing needs? If you want to bring him into it, you would not believe how helpful this man has been to Linda's children, giving them attention, as well as birthday gifts that Linda could not otherwise afford to give them. He visits with them on weekends when he is in town to help them out with repairs on the house, which is literally falling apart...and finishing up the leftover projects that her ex left her with! Shame on you. YOU are making Linda out to be a criminal. Sounds to me like you are in defense of deadbeat dads, huh? Go ahead, defend him...there are many of us who would prefer to not associate with losers like him.

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Posted By:Dr. Hassan Bin Sobah at April 13, 2008 1:46 PM (Suggest Removal)
Sad story. Likely being played out tens of thousands of times around the United States these days. In an economic down cycle, people get hurt, bad. If Linda is really sick, as the story indicates she is, then it is time for Brad to get back into the game to help these kids. Rental housing it has to be if she cannot afford the mortgage, but he needs to be spending every spare nickle on his children.

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Posted By:unknown at April 13, 2008 1:47 PM (Suggest Removal)
Don't you people have anything better to do?

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Posted By:Reality Check at April 13, 2008 1:51 PM (Suggest Removal)
To Unknown, who asks: "Don't you people have anything better to do?"... Let me offer a possible reason why we're on this blog. My first post was a reaction to the original blogs, and, I guess, to the world at large. However, many of the follow up posts seem to be in reaction to Earthymainegirl's constant and over-the-top defense of the woman portrayed in the newspaper article. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that many of the posters (including myself) wanted to sympathize with her plight and wanted to applaud an underdog who took responsibility and initiative and was working her way out of her current mess. That would have been heartwarming and inspirational. Instead, disappointingly, we got something very different. So the arguments may just be that disappointment showing through.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 1:54 PM (Suggest Removal)
to unknown...and you've had nothing better to do then read all this? Something must've struck a chord if you are reading enough to make a comment.

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 1:56 PM (Suggest Removal)
I agree with Itchy. It may come to Linda and the kids moving...and she will handle it with grace if that happens. Many have suggested to Linda to take him back to court, ask him for assistance, etc, etc. Those who know him, know that his thinking is not, let's say, conventional and his reality is not in touch with the rest of society. Sad thing is that in her case, it really would not take that much more for him to pitch in and help the kids to stay in the house that is "home" to them. Wonder what he would do if he were to care for all those children, with an illness that renders one continuously exhausted (any healthy parent would agree that raising a child is exhausting)...AND with the stress of wondering what the future holds. Hmmmmmmm

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 2:43 PM (Suggest Removal)
Realitycheck posted: I wouldn't be surprised to learn that many of the posters (including myself) wanted to sympathize with her plight and wanted to applaud an underdog who took responsibility and initiative and was working her way out of her current mess. It was good to see that you had wanted to applaud an underdog, however, that did not come across from your postings. Nice sentiment, but I don't think that is what Linda would like, nor the reason she agreed to be interviewed by the journalist. I think the point, and hopefully this blog can turn around, is that there are real people out there who are in trouble with their mortgage companies, be it through poor choices or circumstances. This blog could very well turn into an opportunity to open discussion for solutions, as I've stated before. Those who know Linda and others like her, know that she has fallen into unfortunate circumstances. She does not see herself as an underdog, but remains positive and constantly sends out resumes and applies for work that she could do, even if that means pushing her limits. I have found it interesting to see that there have not been any postings addressing the issues and offering solutions, but rather criticisms. Okay, is there anyone out there who knows of resources to offer people in foreclosure situations? Anyone know of JOB opportunities, NOT handouts? Are there business owners/managers on this blog who are in need of hard working employees? Rather then commenting that my posts have been "constant and over-the-top defenses", how about making comment on some of the positive things that have been said? Or is that too altruistic for you?

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Posted By:earthymainegirl at April 13, 2008 2:55 PM (Suggest Removal)
okay, I stand corrected. There are indeed deadbeat Moms out there, too. Any parent who relinquishes responsibility to the children they created are guilty.

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Posted By:personal at April 13, 2008 4:12 PM (Suggest Removal)
Sadly, as EarthMaineGirl continues to look for solutions, others continue the nagging that started at the third comment by RealityCheck: "Not everyone is a victim of circumstance. Some people not only dig their own graves but then jump right in, all the while crying "he pushed me!"." We can't just take a story at face value, it has to be picked apart. Now, a good portion of this woman's private life is not so private now and many have stated opinions about things that weren't even in the story. What the heck people? The story wa