In a story, printed in advance, about compromises with teenagers, which appears on page E6 of today’s Living section, the first two tips did not appear in their entirety. They are reprinted correctly below.

1. LEARN TO LISTEN – Ask teenagers what they wish their parents did better, and the No. 1 answer is “Listen.” Give your child your full attention and assume you have something to learn. We often believe we already know what our child thinks, so we jump right in, dismissing their ideas or feelings. Or we interrupt at any hint of trouble: “What do you mean you have already seen R-rated movies?” When we keep our mouths closed and listen, it allows teens to think clearly and talk openly. Instead of listening to holes in their argument, ask questions for clarification.

2. WHY COMPROMISE? – By hearing your teen out and finding points you can agree on, you show that you recognize her need for more independence while remaining firmly in charge. Exerting influence rather than imposing control is the best way to keep your teen safe and impart your values. When your teen has a chance to give input and believes you are really listening, trust develops, family harmony increases, and “no” is often easier to accept.


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