Married? Here’s some advice on communication and other challenges from the book “How to Survive Your Marriage” (Hundreds of Heads Books, www.hundredsofheads.com, $13.95), straight from people who’ve done it:

“I read somewhere that you’ll be in more trouble if you’re right and your wife is wrong than if you’re wrong and your wife is right. Because of this, I almost always let my wife be right.”

Emmillio E., Vancouver, Canada, married 33 years

“Listen, then listen some more. You can never, never listen to your spouse enough. Think carefully before you utter a single word. At the same time that you’re thinking, keep listening.”

Roberta Beach Jacobson, Karpathos Island, Greece, married 14 years

“I love what Erma Bombeck says to the husbands: “Do you have the patience with her that you have with your biggest client who puts you on hold?’ And to the wives: “Do you have the same pride in his achievements that you felt when you got the mold off the grouting in the shower?’ The longer we are married, the more in danger we are of taking each other for granted and we should make sure that never happens.”

Patsy Cruse, Houston, Texas, married 35 years

“Don’t lose your sense of humor. When you’re angry with your spouse, remember how you felt about him/her when you first fell in love. The pleasant memory will temper your (temporary) anger.”

K.K., Falmouth, Maine, married 35 years

“My husband says if you have to work hard on your relationship, you don’t have a good marriage.”

Batia Elkayam, Los Angeles, married 29 years
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