Adoption for Dummies (By Tracy Barr and Katrina Carlisle, Wiley Press, 358 pages, paperback, $21.99) Conceiving and bearing children is one way to build a family; adoption is merely another way to accomplish the same goal. When it comes to creating and building a parent-child bond, love, trust and commitment are far more important than genetics, note the authors. For those who know adoption is the right choice for their family, this book will guide them every step of the way. It is written by adoptive mothers and filled with personal stories from people who have adopted or who were adopted themselves. It is a reassuring guide that tells readers everything they need to know, including such topics as how to choose the right form of adoption, how to prepare for and make it through the home study, adoption laws and guidelines, questions to ask when looking for a reputable agency or attorney, and how and when to share the adoption story with the child.