Ah, the life of a newlywed. So young and so in love. It doesn’t get any better than the first few months of being a husband and wife. But suddenly, life begins to kick in. There are bills to pay, chores to do and jobs to worry about. It seems like there’s no time for romance and keeping in shape to look your best. You looked beautiful and you were so in love on your wedding day, and you want to keep it that way, far beyond your honeymoon.

Here’s the good news – you can keep your romance alive and stay in shape by utilizing a powerful personal development tool that you already possess … your habits. If you think about it, your habits affect virtually every aspect of your life, including relationships with your loved ones. Your weight and health are determined by your eating and workout habits, your success at work by your work habits. Virtually every aspect of your life is determined by your habits. To utilize this powerful tool, you simply need to start adding “positive” habits to your life that will provide the benefits you want. Research has shown that an action that is repeated for a minimum of 21 days is likely to become a permanent habit.

To acquire a new positive habit, just repeat the actions listed below for a minimum of 21 days, until it becomes a permanent habit that you will benefit from for the rest of your life. Here are some positive habits to keep your romance alive and your body in shape.

Habit 1: Leave notes of love and appreciation. Make it a habit to put them in a place where your significant other will see them. Buy some Post-it notes and put them where they’ll most likely be seen – in the car, bathroom mirror, on the refrigerator. Offer words of love, encouragement and appreciation in the notes.

Habit 2: Brag about your husband in public. Boast about his successes in his career and the way he looks. Sincere flattery will endear him to you like nothing else.

Habit 3: The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Make it a habit to turn dinners into romantic occasions. Plan the evening and make the meal special from start to finish. Serve aphrodisiacs such as oysters, strawberries, chocolate or wine. Add some candles and soft music for an even more romantic ambiance.

Habit 4: When you eat out, make it a habit to request how your food is prepared. Always order salad dressing on the side, order fried foods baked and request potato toppings on the side. According to the “Encyclopedia of Foods: A Guide to Healthy Nutrition,” those tips will help you save 10 to 30 grams of fat and 100 to 300 calories per entree. Think about how this positive habit can help you achieve a trim and fit body automatically.

Habit 5: If you want some more help achieving that trim and fit body, make it a positive habit to drink green tea daily. The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition recently published research demonstrating that green tea increases your metabolism and also increases the rate at which your body burns calories. Burning more calories is your ticket to a leaner body. Green tea is also loaded with antioxidants, which have been shown to reduce the risk of cancer and many other diseases.

There are more than 80 life-changing habits in the new book that #1 New York Times best-selling authors Jack Canfield, Brian Tracy and John Gray are all raving about, “The Power of Positive Habits” (Abritt Publishing) by Dan Robey. Discover how to lose weight automatically, improve your health automatically, have better relationships automatically and more. You can purchase “The Power of Positive Habits” at major bookstores, online at www.thepowerofpositivehabits.com or by calling toll free 1-866-MYHABITS.

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