Lately, we are hearing the term “flip-flop” a lot, an insulting term for changing one’s mind. We also hear “steadfastness,” a flattering term for stubborn arrogance.

A dad tells his family, “We’ll all go to the beach Saturday.” What if it’s pouring rain? When their plans change, is the dad guilty of flip-flopping?

A mom says, “Since it’s February vacation, you can invite a friend and we’ll spend the day at the mall.” What if a blizzard comes? Is the mom flip-flopping when the plans change?

What if these parents say, “I’m the parent. I said we’ll go so we’re going no matter what!” Anyone who disagrees or questions the wisdom of the decision may be derided as disloyal or unpatriotic. This is not the dreaded flip-flopping, but the preferable steadfastness (unreasonable, unwise, arrogant stubbornness).

Which scenario shows the better leadership? People are forced to change their plans by inclement weather. This is called flexibility.

Leaders of organizations or countries must have this quality of flexibility. If someone more knowledgeable makes a suggestion contrary to one’s own, a true leader must be humble enough to reconsider. If new information comes to light, the leader must show strength by rethinking his decision. Flexibility demands common sense, humility and true strength.

We need a president with these qualities. We need a president who will respect and accept input from wiser consultants, even those outside his inner circle.

Anne S. Ceplikas, Auburn

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