DEAR ABBY: I am 62 and my husband is 93. Our next-door neighbor, “Sam,” likes to expose himself. Other than that, he’s a good neighbor and always ready to help out.

One day, a couple of my women friends were over visiting, and Sam stood in his doorway naked as a jaybird, waving at them. Maybe he thinks it pays to advertise. Mostly, he does this when my husband has gone inside the house.

His behavior worries me. If anything should happen to my husband, do you think Sam would try to force himself on me? Could he attack me and try to rape or murder me, or is he just a nice guy who likes to expose himself, and not the least bit dangerous?

I don’t want to be a bad neighbor, and I don’t want my name revealed, but this neighbor is really making me uneasy. Should I report what he’s been doing to the police? – SCARED IN HAWAII

DEAR SCARED: Listen to your intuition – it’s the impulse that made you write to me. It is an alarm bell. I don’t know your neighbor, so I can’t predict whether he’s a rapist in the making. However, I DO know that his behavior is deviant and highly inappropriate – and for that reason, the police should be notified. Immediately!

DEAR ABBY: My sister, “Emily,” became engaged last week. She is planning her wedding, which will take place next year.

Emily’s choice of a wedding date is causing a lot of hurt feelings among our family. She wants to be married on what would have been our father’s birthday.

Daddy passed away while we were young, and it has been hard on the family. A lot of us feel she’s being selfish to choose a day that belongs to our father and make it her own. Emily insists that she’s trying to honor Daddy – although some of her other actions suggest that she’s acting out of spite for the rest of us. A lot of the family are saying they don’t want to attend.

I would hate to see my sister heartbroken on her wedding day, but do you find her choice of date appropriate or selfish? – ASKANCE IN SOUTHERN CALIF.

DEAR ASKANCE: I, too, would hate to see your sister heartbroken on her wedding day, and I’m having trouble understanding how her being married on her deceased father’s birthday would be selfish or disrespectful to his memory. From my perspective, she has chosen a day that has been tinged with sadness and is trying to give it a happier connotation. Because her father cannot give her away, she’s including him on her special day in a different way. More power to her.

DEAR ABBY: My mom and dad are divorced. Mom has a new boyfriend and my dad has a girlfriend. When I’m with my dad and his girlfriend is over, I feel left out because he doesn’t pay as much attention to me as he used to. The sad thing is, when I’m with my mom I feel the same way.

Do you think it would be fair if one day out of the week my mom would take me somewhere for, like, an hour, and THEN my mom and I do something with her boyfriend? The same goes for my dad, too. – LOST IN THE SHUFFLE

DEAR LOST: From the mouths of babes. I think it’s a terrific idea. But I also think your one-on-one time with each of your parents should be more than one hour a week.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.