David Steele is the author of “Conscious Dating – Finding the Love of Your Life in Today’s World” and the founder of the Relationship Coaching Institute. His tip for singles is “to be the chooser.”

Being the chooser means you have done the work on yourself to know your requirements, needs and wants in a relationship and, therefore, know who is not right for you and who is right for you. Then you can choose the right one for you.

Nili Sachs, author of “Booby Trapped – How to Feel Normal in a Breast-Obsessed World,” says her most important tip for singles is to take care of yourself and know yourself well, because you are the gift that you are going to give to that special someone one day.

The husband and wife team of Joe and Michelle Williams are the authors of “Yes, Your Marriage Can Be Saved – 12 Truths for Rescuing Your Relationship.” They told me the most important tip for singles is to build their faith and put God first. Focusing on God and your faith allows you to become the right person instead of always being focused on the finding the right person.

Scott Haltzman, the author of “The Secrets of Happily Married Men,” says to listen to the other person. When you listen to the heart of the other person you can grow closer and know if this person is the right one for you.

Susan Heitler is the author of “The Power of Two – Secrets to a Strong & Loving Marriage.” She says, “Marriage is for grownups, and so you have to learn how to dance the ‘win-win waltz’ in a relationship.”

Tom and Beverly Rodgers, the authors of “The Singlehood Phenomenon,” say to “Never, ever give up hope, because your soul mate is out there.”

And husband and wife team Jesse and Melva Thomas Johnson, authors of “Mining for Gold in Your Relationships,” offer to singles, “Instead of focusing on finding the right person, your job is to focus on becoming the right person.”

For more tips and tools for singles and couples you can visit http://www.SecretsofGreatRelationships.com by relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring.

Jeff Herring, MS, LMFT, is a marriage and family therapist. E-mail him at [email protected] or visit www.JeffHerringOnline.com.