Teaching your child to use the right fork or fold his or her napkin properly may seem like a nice after-thought in today’s world, but modern etiquette experts say proper social graces can affect your child’s future.

These days, etiquette classes teach children not only impeccable table manners, but how to develop skills that will help them network, socialize and interact with others as they grow.

“Some people think of etiquette as a young girl carrying a book on her head, but that’s a very old-fashioned view. We are getting people ready for real life,” said Elena Brouwer, director and founder of the International Etiquette Centre in Hollywood.

Here are modern etiquette tips for parents from experts:

– Ban electronics from the dinner table.

Placating your child with a Nintendo DS while you dine out may ensure a peaceful meal, but it’s rude to the other diners and deprives children of social interaction they need to succeed in the real world.

“Kids are not getting any practice interacting with others face to face,” Brouwer says.

– Teach by example.

Don’t tell your kids not to bring their portable video games to the table, then spend the whole meal checking your Blackberry. When it’s dinner time, devote your attention to the people at the table.

“Children don’t learn by what the parents say, they learn by what they do,” Brouwer says.

– Don’t text in front of others.

Texting one person while carrying on a conversation with another is rude. It is like telling the person in front of you that the other is more important, Brouwer said. Teach your kids to give their full attention.

– Practice good manners.

Tell the kids:

– Make sure your face and hands are clean before you sit down.

– Put your napkin in your lap.

– Use your napkin to wipe your face, not the back of your hand.

– Start eating when everyone else does.

– Sit upright.

– Keep elbows off the table.

– Chew with your mouth closed.

– Say “please,” and ask, instead of reaching.

– Ask to be excused and say “thank you.”

– Offer to help clear the table.

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“There are people who always know what to say and how to act. That doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It takes years of trying,” Brouwer says. “You don’t go to two guitar lessons and know how to play a guitar.”

– Use proper phone manners.

Teach your kids how to identify themselves and greet the caller when phoning a friend. Make sure your child knows the phone rules in your household. How late can they call out? How late can their friends call? Show them how to take a complete phone message.

– Send proper thanks.

Buy a box of thank-you notes for your kids. Teach them to write a thank-you note within two days of receiving a gift, even if they thanked the giver verbally at the party, Payoute said. In the note, mention the gift, and if it was monetary, mention what you plan to do with it. But don’t mention the dollar amount.

– Make a good first impression.

Teach kids to show respect for adults by standing and making eye contact. Tell your kids which hand to extend for a handshake (some kids don’t know!) and how to make a firm grip. “A proper handshake shows you belong there and have confidence,” Payoute said.

– Make nice at the table.

Often a child’s first meal out without parents is at a friend’s house. Teach them to follow the host family’s lead. If everyone serves themselves, do the same. If everyone helps clear the table, then help.

And if they don’t like something they’re served? “Eat the other items on your plate. Don’t say, ‘Ewww’ and make a big deal out of it. It’s one meal on one evening. You’ll survive,” Payoute said.