DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I go to visit my mother (in another city) every other month or so, my brother and his wife insist on coming over to see us while we’re there. Our visits usually last two or three days.

Many times when they come over, my sister-in-law will start doing her exercise routine, including floor exercises, which are, in my husband’s and my opinion, unbecoming and inappropriate to do in front of other people.

How do we deal with this? Are we crazy to feel awkward when she’s lying on her back doing these pelvic thrusts? Would it be out of line to ask her NOT to do this in the future?

My brother says, “She won’t listen to me, so it wouldn’t do any good to talk to her,” so we know talking to her won’t help. What do you suggest? — FEELING AWKWARD

DEAR FEELING AWKWARD: Here’s how I’d handle it. Talk to her anyway, and ask her to please refrain from doing these exercises in your presence because it makes you uncomfortable. But if that doesn’t work and she starts “performing,” stand up and say, “Hey, folks. Let’s go out for a walk (or coffee, or a sandwich),” and put an end to her bid for attention that way.

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend will have “scheduled” sex with me — only after he has had his shower in the evening or in the morning. Every once in a while I get lucky and am able to stop by after work and have a quickie. It’s driving me crazy.

I have tried many ways to get him to have sex spontaneously, but he won’t budge. It’s starting to be a turn-off because it’s not the “right time.” What do I do? — LOOSER THAN THAT IN DETROIT

DEAR LOOSER: Your boyfriend may have a touch of OCD, or need to feel “in control” when he has sex. In other words, if the encounter is not his idea and at the time he chooses, he doesn’t get turned on.

There’s help for him if he’s willing to admit there “may” be a problem. But if he isn’t, then find yourself another fella because nothing is likely to change.

DEAR ABBY: My sister-in-law is being married in September. I am in the wedding. My wife and I are having a baby in June, but the bride does not want to include my new baby. I think she is concerned people will pay attention to the baby and not her.

Many distant relatives will attend and this may be the only time they will see my son. She plans to invite more than 200 people. Am I right to be upset that my son, her nephew, is not invited? — JOHN DOE IN PLANO, TEXAS

DEAR JOHN DOE: I don’t think so. It’s the bride’s day, and you should abide by her wishes without complaining. If she prefers not to have her wedding disrupted by an infant who needs feeding or changing, it’s her choice.

Because you want to show off your new baby, bring along pictures and pass them around. I’m sure the relatives will be thrilled to see them.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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