DEAR ABBY: My husband and I live in a nice home in the desert Southwest with an in-ground pool and guesthouse. Our friends and relatives from back east have an open invitation to visit whenever they please. We enjoyed these visits until recently. The problem is their ever-present compulsion to be connected to an electronic […]

DEAR ABBY: My longtime friend of 30 years, “Charlotte,” lives across the country. I have just learned that her husband, “Harold,” is transgender and is now transitioning to become “Helen.” When they come, they always stay with us for several days because they can’t afford a hotel. My husband is now very uncomfortable with them […]

DEAR ABBY: Years ago, you published a recipe for cheesecake, which you said was very good. Well, it was not only “good” — it was TERRIFIC. As a native New Yorker, I know cheesecake. I have moved and lost my recipe. Can you republish it? It’s the best! — CHEESECAKE LOVER IN DELAND, FLA. DEAR […]

DEAR ABBY: I’m getting married in a few months, and with all of the wedding planning, I have realized that in my fiance’s priorities, I come last, as do my opinions and desires. We were supposed to go to a nice restaurant for his birthday, so I made reservations a month in advance. Yesterday (two […]

DEAR ABBY: My 15-year-old son has a friend who stayed with us for five months during football and basketball season because he didn’t have transportation to early-morning practices. In the beginning it was one night, then it eventually became full weeks, full months and so on. We treated him like our own, providing food, washing […]

DEAR ABBY: I have known “Charlotte” for 17 years. She was a bridesmaid at my wedding, and we talk and text regularly. I consider her one of my best friends. Charlotte has had a tough couple years and has sunk into a depression. We live on opposite sides of the country, so I don’t see […]

DEAR ABBY: My mother is 86 and drives everyone in the family crazy when we have to spend time with her. She says things that make people cringe. She’s racist, homophobic, judgmental and critical of everybody and everything. When we try to point out that what she says hurts people, she starts going into how […]

DEAR ABBY: My mom has never been what you would call a housekeeper. Dad did all the shopping, cooking and cleaning. As a child, I remember our house always being a mess. Mom worked, and I don’t know why she never felt like she needed to clean up after herself. My dad would straighten up […]

DEAR ABBY: I have been happily married for more than 40 years. Since he retired a couple of years ago, it has come to my attention that he has been getting mail at a separate private mailbox. I don’t see a good reason for this, and it is weighing on me heavily. I don’t want […]