DEAR ABBY: When I was 19 and played bass in a rock band, I fell in love with a guy I’ll call “Brian.” He was three years older and also a musician. We had the best times together — we were young and wild without a care in the world. But the years rolled on […]
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Man wants his girlfriend to stay dressed for bed
DEAR ABBY: I have dated a lot of women over the years — including actresses, beauty contest winners and models. Every one of them, except my current live-in, “Amanda,” would dress up in lingerie when I asked them to. Amanda adamantly refuses. She says if I love her, I should be turned on whether she’s […]
HIV is treatable, but only if you know you’re positive
DEAR ABBY: Today, Dec. 1, is World AIDS Day. With effective treatment, people with HIV can live as long as those without HIV. Fear, shame and ignorance remain barriers to testing and treatment, which can be more deadly than HIV itself. People with HIV who are in treatment need never develop advanced HIV (formerly full-blown […]
Daughter dreads holiday visit to mom in diminished health
DEAR ABBY: I gave birth to a baby girl two months ago. I have a wonderful husband and my in-laws are incredible. We live far away from both sides of the family. My mom is a former cocaine and prescription pain meds addict. Her addiction diminished her mental capacities, and it’s difficult to relate to […]
Let professional deal with sibling
DEAR ABBY: I have a sibling, “Bailey,” who suffers from panic attacks and anxiety disorder. Bailey was first diagnosed while I was attending college. I had a standard psychology class that helped me understand the basics of what he was going through, but whenever there would be a problem with him, I would always feel […]
Neighbors make themselves at home at another castle
DEAR ABBY: I have a neighbor, “Mrs. Smith,” whom I see often in another neighbor’s yard, “the Joneses,” when they are not home. I have seen Mrs. Smith pick vegetables from their garden and take them to her house, and Mr. Smith connect extension cords that run to their home in the winter months when […]
Teen questions connection between sex and marriage
DEAR ABBY: I am 16 and a sophomore in high school. As someone who is exposed to social media, I see that many people emphasize sex as a sign of love. They seem to be saying a happy marriage cannot survive without sex. My parents do not have sex and are distant with each other. […]
Mom and sister join forces to dictate wedding party
DEAR ABBY: My mother and older sister are trying to spoil my happiness about my upcoming wedding. I have known my ex-stepmother, “Gina,” for 20 years and have been best friends with her for the last 15. We remained close even after she divorced my biological father, who is not in the picture. I had […]
Wife who yearns for husband’s support must rely on her own
DEAR ABBY: While I was nine months pregnant with my first child, I asked my husband what he would say if I had any problem during my delivery and he was asked to choose between me or the baby. His answer was, “Of course I’d pick the baby because you can never replace the baby.” […]
Jailed addict needs release from his low self-esteem
DEAR ABBY: I’m 23 years old and currently in the county jail. I’m gay and also an addict, having battled a heroin addiction for the past five years. I managed to stay clean for almost two years. During that time I enrolled in college, got engaged, regained the respect of my family and started to […]