A: Little kids rarely have preconceived expectations about travel – they’re just so delighted to be going someplace new – so it’s hard to disappoint them. But teenagers are a lot more particular about what they think is fun. And you can pretty well count on there being some differences between your definition and theirs. Sometimes all they want is a chance to hang out with other kids their age. Or, they may be interested in an activity that presents a physical challenge.

It’s a pretty safe bet, though, that they’re not going to have a lot of interest in spending all day museum hopping. The key is to include your teenagers as much as possible in the decision making and to be flexible. Determine the budget and distance limits then toss suggestions into a hat, pick one, and discuss.

Give the kids a vote in picking hotels and restaurants. If you’re taking a driving trip and the kids are old enough, let them spend some time behind the wheel. Once you’re at your vacation spot, give your teen a small amount of spending money and leave it up to him to spend wisely. If you’re in a place where you feel comfortable letting the kids go off on their own for a while, check out in advance the places they plan to visit – just like you would at home. And be sure everyone agrees on curfews and emergency procedures.

One of the risks of traveling with teens is that they might meet someone and fall in love on the trip. There’s something about unfamiliar surroundings that makes everything seem more exciting and everyone seem more attractive. How you handle the situation will, of course, depend on the circumstances. If you’re trying discourage a summer romance, be gentle. It’s better to let your child figure out for himself that long-distance romance is difficult to maintain than blame you for ruining his life.

For more tips on travel, check out “Travel with Others Without Wishing They’d Stayed Home,” by Nadine Davidson.

Bon voyage!
Armin Brott’s latest book is “Father for Life: A Journey of Joy, Challenge, and Change.” His Web site address is: www.mrdad.com.

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