FARMINGTON – Sharri Kapiloff was busy cleaning Wednesday. She was getting ready to host her family for Thanksgiving. Everybody will bring something so she doesn’t have to cook.

But Thanksgiving won’t be the same this year.

It will be the first Thanksgiving without her husband of 22 years, Glenn Kapiloff, who is in Iraq serving in the military.

He arrived Tuesday in Iraq, Sharri Kapiloff said.

He had been in Kuwait for five or six days, then moved into Iraq in preparation for his mission, she said.

Glenn Kapiloff, director of the Foster Regional Applied Technology Center in Farmington, learned in August that his unit had been mobilized to go to Iraq to teach Iraqi soldiers.

That call to duty came as a shock to the 42-year-old man and his wife, and their four daughters, Ayla, Amber, Leanna and Jordan.

It was the first time his unit had been mobilized in more than two decades.

Maj. Kapiloff is in the Army Reserves’ 98th Division, 12th Battalion, based in Schenectady, N.Y. It is a battalion of instructors who teach command and general staff college courses required of all officers of the rank of major.

“We’re doing all right,” Sharri Kapiloff said Wednesday as her voice slightly broke. “I just miss him. We’re coping OK. … It’s awfully hard.”

Her husband has been calling home and e-mailing as often as possible, she said, but it will be more difficult now as he makes his way deeper into Iraq.

Communication is not that good, she said.

Kapiloff said she didn’t seem to mind when her husband was in training for seven weeks at Camp Atterbury in Indiana, but now that he’s in Iraq, that has changed. “Thinking of him in Iraq bothers me,” she said.

She hadn’t realized how emotional it was going to be, she said, but it is. “It’s such a shock,” she said.

Her husband is doing all right, she said. “I think he misses home a lot,” she said.

The whole community has been helpful and supportive to the family, she said.

That’s what will help her family through, she said.