Shirley Ann Grover

SOUTH PARIS – Shirley Ann Grover, a devoted and loving mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother, passed away early Saturday morning, November 26, 2022, at the age of 84.

Shirley was born on September 22, 1938 in Lewiston, Maine, the daughter of the late Leon W. and Thelma (Meisner) Abbot. She graduated from Norway High School in 1956. She worked in the office at CB Cummings & Sons for 28 years, as well as several local convenience stores. Following her retirement, she enjoyed working as a part-time receptionist at the Maine Veterans Home in South Paris.

She will be remembered as a warm, loving, kind, thoughtful, caring and generous person who loved the outdoors, fall foliage drives, spending time at the ocean and beach, traveling, yard sales, and the annual Oxford Hills Christmas parade. She was loyal to her family and friends, and was always willing and ready to help anyone in need.

Survivors include her three daughters, Joan Hafner (Charles), Patti Toothaker (David), Linda Lenberg, and was an Auntie-Mom to her niece, Karyn Neil. Two step-children, Bill Grover (Nancy) and Myra Emery. Twelve grandchildren: Kristen Ross (Daniel), Melissa Flagg (Jim), Brian Lenberg (Meryl), Katherine Garrett (Lucas), Justin Toothaker (Chelsea), Lindsay Toothaker (Brandon), David Toothaker (Molly), Amanda Toothaker (Jon), Bronte’ and Kiersten Grover, Nellie Berry, and Rick Emery.

Fourteen great-grandchildren: Dylan, Wyatt, and Caleb Flagg, Noah Ross, Liam Lenberg-Courcy, Rayleigh Garrett, Hudson Lenberg, Aubrianna Bennett, Alexis and Owen Pinkham, Jonathon Marcous, and Ember, Noah, and David Toothaker Jr.

Shirley was predeceased by her husband Richard W. Grover, her parents, Leon and Thelma Abbot, and her sister, Betty Neil.

A Celebration of Life will be held in the spring. Arrangements are under the direction of Chandler Funeral Homes & Cremation Service, 45 Main Street, South Paris, Maine.

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