In an attempt to prevent at least some of the anxiety that comes with holiday gift giving in a relationship, we offer seven tips for relationship gift giving. Violate at your own risk.

The law of last minute — You do not want to violate this law, during any holiday or celebration. Sometimes, when your relationship becomes a bit more “long term,” it’s easy to slip into forgetfulness and find yourself scrambling at the last minute, like Christmas Eve, for a gift. Make sure you take a moment to think about your partner. There’s nothing worse for the giver (think about the crowds!) and the recipient when you leave this until the last minute. Here’s a great hint: When you see something that would make a wonderful gift for your partner, purchase it and save it until the special occasion or holiday rolls around.

The law of paying attention — There’s no better gift to give a loved one than paying attention. As you go about everyday life, you probably get some pretty great ideas for gifts, but maybe it isn’t close to a holiday … And when it is “time” to buy that gift, you try to remember what it was that would have made a great present, and you simply draw a blank. Just like any great idea, keep a running list of great gifts for your partner, even if it’s not close to time to buy. Then, when the holidays draw near, you have a list of different options and it shows your partner you were, in fact, listening. Like it’s been said before, there’s is no gift like being present and this helps your partner know you have been present with them.

The law of Black & Decker — OK, guys, this one is for you. Unless you have the request in writing, do not buy your lady anything with Black & Decker on it. And “But honey, I thought you wanted a Skill Saw!” will not cut it. (Note from Maritza: Jeff, Do not ever purchase me a Black & Decker product or something from Home Depot.)

The law of appreciation — Instead of the traditional Hallmark Christmas card that someone else wrote, why not create your own holiday card and tell your partner what it is you appreciate about them. Be specific. We promise that this kind of gift will be cherished and kept around much longer than soap-on-a-rope.

The law of forgiveness — Sometimes, the best gift you can give your partner and yourself is the gift of forgiveness. No one is perfect, everyone stumbles. Forgiveness does not condone the harm done, or make you vulnerable to getting hurt. It can release you from the pain though. And in that sense is a gift you give yourself.

The law of a perfect day — How about this: Ask your partner what a perfect day would look like to them. Get details from getting up to going to bed. And then as much as you can, create that perfect day. You could give a card inviting your partner to that day in the near future.

The law of a BYE — While the above is a really good idea for a gift, don’t stop there. Why not shoot for the whole year? As in, the Best Year Ever (BYE). This time next year is going to roll around anyway, so why not make it a fantastic one?