Married? Here’s some advice about sex and romance from the book “How to Survive Your Marriage” (Hundreds of Heads Books,, $13.95), straight from people who’ve done it:

“Don’t play the video game every day. It might get boring. Keep it new and try playing the game in different rooms, at different angles, with different obstacles.”

– Richard Hall, Kennesaw, Ga.

“My wife and I started a treasure chest of love letters when we were engaged. Now, on every anniversary, we go away and take the stack of love letters with us. We spend at least three days traveling to some place we’ve never been and review all the passionate moments that we’ve had over the years.”

– Mark Jappe, Santee, Calif.

“He wants sex to feel close. I want sex when I feel close.”

– Sam, Atlanta

“When the kids were younger and we wanted to have fun in the bedroom, we’d set up the kids in front of the TV and we would go upstairs. It would be like we were teenagers again, sneaking around. And we would do our thing and go downstairs and they would still be sitting there watching their show. It was great. But I think it’s harder to be intimate in your own house as the children get older. They know what’s going on. My daughter knows we’re not going to bed at 7 p.m. You come out of your bedroom and you act like you’re doing something wrong. It’s uncomfortable. I have to wait until they’re not home or asleep.”

– Tina M. Coy, El Cajon, Calif.

“I wish we had more sex. Everything else is great. We have affection and tenderness, but not enough sex. I think maybe we have different “styles” of seduction and just don’t have the energy very often to overcome that. We both are perplexed by this.”

– R., Austin, Texas

“Make time for each other, and as cliche as this may sound, remember that this relationship is more important than even the parent-child relationship. The kids will grow up and leave and you and your spouse will be back alone as a couple. It’s too late to work on things if at that point you realize you have nothing in common and have ignored the relationship all these years.”

– Alison, Boca Raton, Fla.

“He still brings me flowers on the 25th of every month, because that is the date we got engaged and got married.”

– L.M., New York

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